Marriage according to the Bible
The bible is what me and my wife has tried to keep close to our hearts and in our marriage. We used to try to follow the ways of both of our families. It didn't work because they never had God close to their hearts. We found that by following the rules of the bible keeps our relationship alive and healthy. We are happier and our children are to.
Proverbs 31 is a strong story of a mother telling her son what a relationship should be. It is one of my favorite verses but there are a lot of verses in the bible that tells a man and a women how a relationship should be. In Proverbs 31 verse 10 starts the story of what a true marriage of love should be. It states that finding a women who is Godly and good is far more valuable than any money or anything of value. The husband should be able to trust his wife in every aspect of life. And vice versa. The wife should help her husband to do good in life and encourage good in everything they do. A wife should be willing to work to help the husband by taking care of the house,kids and other things. Its not saying that you should stay bare foot and pregnant in the house and wait on your husband hand and foot. But a man shouldn't have to worry about everything. His job is to make sure you are provided for. A women should be willing out of love to help ease the stress and all the weight off his shoulder by offering her hands to work and to take care of the family. A great women also has a fear of God which is the best quality you can have. It says in verse 30 of Proverbs 31 that favour is deceitful and beauty is vain.
The bible also says what a man should do for a women when they get married. I think these verses are strong and very informative. I like Genesis 2:23. God made women out of a rib from Adams body. The women is part of the man and when they are married they become a whole. Both were created to be equal. And that's the way a marriage should be.
Genesis 2:24 is a good verse. It says that a man will leave his father and his mother and be united to his wife and they will become one. Another example of how both parties are created equal. God loves all of us the same. He doesn't love one one way and one another. And he wants the same from us. Marriage is sacrificed and it should be treated that way. God had you and your mate meet for a reason. HE knows everything that is going to happen. He has plans for everything. It took me and my husband a while but once we realized God was in control then things turned around for us.
The Role Of The Woman
1 Titus 2:3-5 said "Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God."
The woman is to be home oriented. As I have said, this is not a minor role. This is THE major role. Paul said the woman to build home and the man provide for the home through the participation of the marketplace.
In today's society though, the home is viewed very lowly. It is viewed as a place to sleep and eat so you can go back to the marketplace. Caring for a home is hard work, just as hard as going to the office, and satisfying, just as satisfying as being promoted.
A woman is by nature caring. Look at jobs that require high amount care, like nurses and counselors, isn't the majority women? Women just care more than man. They are more sensitive and more capable of love.
This is because women are made to be men's helpers. Genesis 2:20-22 said, "So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then God made a woman from the rib He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man." Helpers is again not a diminishing role. The Holy Spirit is described in the bible as our helper.
"Modern" women is always thinking, why should I be helper? I want to be the leader or equal. I want to be independent. This is a distorted view. Helper and leader is equal but different. The leader needs the helper and so does the helper need the leader. Women think this way today because we were taught pride is the highest virtue. Your self-esteem is the most important thing in the world. But the bible preaches humility is the highest virtue and love is the most important thing in the world.
A man NEED his wife to be dependent on him. It is very important for a man to feel important. This has nothing to do with self-esteem. This is him. Just like a woman need his husband to love her. That is her. We are all made to be dependent on each other and as a community.
The Man's Role
Ephesians 5:22-24 said, "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything"
But also, Ephesians 5:25-28 said, "Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave him himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with the water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkles or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself."
Man's role is undoubtedly the leader of the house. But we are not taught this, because it is politically incorrect. We were instead taught a distorted sense of equality. Have you heard of the 50/50 rule where the husband will do the chores for a day and the wife on another? Has man ever cared enough to clean? Even when he does clean, how clean is it? Has a man cared enough to take out the rubbish? No! Because men are not made like that.
Man is the spiritual leader of the house. In the old testament, when a woman commits adultery or sexual immorality, she is brought to her father's steps and stoned. Why the father's steps? Because she is his responsibility.
The man is also to go out to the marketplace and provide his family for "If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." 1 Timothy 5:8
Continuing, 1 Timothy 5:14 said, "So I counsel younger widows to marry to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander."
Man is the disciplinarian of the house. Ephesians 6:4 wrote, "Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."
GodBless To All ....